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How to make a good impression on a first date?

by Sonal Shukla

At last this magical event happened. A dating site, a local bar, or your friends have done their job – and now you have met a wonderful person with whom you are going on a date. Of course, you probably already managed to find out some things about him, preferences, likes, hobbies and the name of the pet, but it’s too early to relax.

The first date is always a very crucial moment, as you need to make a pleasant impression, so that later in your life you will reminisce on where you met, what you talked about and how great you were together the first time you saw each other.

But often, adjusting to the other, we do not understand how to simply spend time with pleasure and get to know each other without nervous tension. 

So how do you make your first date unforgettable and very smooth at the same time for all parties?

Decide on the time and duration

The first date doesn’t necessarily have to take a few evening hours, since this time is always suitable for everyone. Firstly, everyone has their own schedule, and secondly, sometimes you don’t have to spend that much time together to realize that a date is or is not working. However, there is no need to drag yourself out of the date by force, because the rules say something else.

Think about how long it takes you to sort out your interest in a person. Maybe it’s half an hour, or maybe a walk for the whole day is not enough, because you need time to get used to, relax and tune in to have a nice, casual conversation with a new person.

Mind your gestures

Words are important, but gestures are even more important. To an observant person, they will tell a lot about you. Therefore, the gestures must be monitored. When a girl, for example, touches herself, takes off and puts on shoes, actively shakes her hair – all this shows her interlocutor that she likes him. These “flirting gestures” should be used sparingly. Do not close in your position and act like an aristocratic old white lady, but you also shouldn’t actively gesticulate with both hands – try to find a balance.

The same applies to tactile contact with your partner. On the first date, you are not very familiar yet, and frequent touching can make a person feel uncomfortable. People value their boundaries and breaking them down too quickly can cause unpleasant feelings.

Ideas for conversation

It’s good if you are at some kind of event, at a museum or any exhibition where you can get distracted from the conversation, but if you are walking or sitting in a cafe, then awkward pauses are something you should be careful with. 

But don’t worry, pauses in conversation are normal, but still it’s better to keep them to a minimum. In order to prevent a situation in which you have no topics left for conversation, you can think over the topics in advance. However it’s also important to remember to avoid talking about work, studying, and previous relationships  because positive emotions are highly important to you.

The main thing is that you shouldn’t impose your own point of view on your date. Be softer in your statements and reasoning. Prepare funny stories or anecdotes to make the atmosphere more relaxed. 

Plan with escape routes

Ok, let’s go now to a bit unpleasant, yet a quite plausible situation, when you realize that dating goes wrong and the person next to you can hardly be called your match made in heaven.  It is absolutely not scary to admit this to yourself and not sit out the promised time in order to leave with a clear conscience and without offending anyone. Come up with escape routes.

And here it is not at all necessary to come up with complex scenarios. Just think about a polite and gentle refusal in advance and do not think that you owe each other it is important to remember that refusal can come from the other side.

 

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